caught between 2 acquaintances

[jawnbc]

Perhaps I shouldn’t care. Or bother. But I do.

Someone casually informs me that they’ll be crashing with another nodding acquaintance in the not-too-distant future. Person #1 has always struck me as a good person. Person #2, I have found, has serious issues, including stalking and other obsessive-like behaviours.

I don’t know if #1 knows this about #2. I started to write an email about it, but no matter how I worded it.......waaaah!

“Hey,

I hear you’re gonna stay with #2 in a few weeks. How well do you know each other? Because . . .”

1. If #1 is in the dark, I could save him much heart-ache and drama
2. if #1 knows this but is gonna give #2 the benefit of the doubt, could be OK
3. If they’re already good mates, I look like a meddling asshole.

Help? Please?

Comments

[beverly-sutphin.livejournal.com]

I'll be the dissenter. I'd speak to person #1 about it. I've been in similar situations and I always let people know. I'm not a gossip about it and I strive to objectively report the information that I have observed with examples and then let the person decide for themselves. If person #2 approached me (you) about sharing said information, I'd tell #2 that I was only speaking truth and that if #2 felt the information was in error, #2 could feel free to show me where I was wrong.

Besides, #2 can go fuck himself if he has a problem. I say this because I'd also move in the direction of eliminating #2 from my circle entirely. I try and stay away from people who have serious issues (expect myself *heheh*).

If I were #1, I'd really hope that my friends would warn me about the #2's of this world if they had access to information that I didn't. Just imagine if I'd had the opportunity to gain some info about my ex from his exes *sigh*.

Anyway....

I'm surprised that you are found it difficult to assess this situation. I would have sworn that I'd learned how to deal with situations like this from you in years past.

Re:

[jawnbc]

were the relations all face-2-face, it'd be a no brainer. It's all virtual, hence the lack of clarity.

But you've--of course--neatly summarized my train of thought exactly.