Le monde est stone...

[jawnbc]

I've been around the block a few times. Many blocks, many many times.

Yesterday being Good Friday, the bars and clubs in Sydney were all closed as per law (Christmas Day being the only other day they are compelled to close. At all. Many stay open 24/7 save those 2 days). Their closure, and a niggling preoccupation with my loins led me to my local men's club Friday evening, Kingsteam.

Kingsteam is my kinda sauna. Clean but not too tidy. Some spa-ish features like steam, sauna and jacuzzis, but mostly it's for sex. The crowd is almost exclusively 30+, and more rough-hewn than purdy. And a nice bunch of blokes, with little attitude. I go there 1-2 times a week for play and socializing, and it's always good to "woo hoo."

Except last night. Pretty much a total washout; after 2 hours I left, and decided on impulse to try a venue popular with mates, HeadQuarters. Which is a sex-on-premises club, meaning no clothes lockers or towels. Guys can check some/all their clothes and their valuables. Lots of sling rooms and stand up sex space--did I mention I loathe stand-up sex? But there I was.

Goatee guy is fun and raunchy. Nice uncut willie. We take turns sharing da oral love. He bends over, I oblige. Just a warm up for each so we part amicably (yes, it's kewl to be friendly in gay men's sex space). But I practically fall face first trying to get my pants back up to continue my prowl.

Shaved head daddy invites me in his room to give him so oral lovin', and proceeds to "joy" (as said en français--cum) in my mouth. Jumpback, managed to avoid most, wonder "what an asshole" and move on.

Dominant cocksucker wants to hold me down while he blows me. Forcefully. Kinda hot, kinda icky. But he gets what he wanted. And I get to go home.

Now I cruise a lot. I love sex and am rather promiscuous (responsibly, healthfully, which is quite doable). And it's been years since someone's tried to cum in my mouth without warning. I'm not worried about HIV per sé, but it is one way I mitigate risk for STDS--no cum inside anywhere, with very few (maybe once a year) exceptions. And I do likewise because I know a lot of guys who feel more comfortable if I don't cum in their mouth.

But I think it's shitty slut etiquette to blow off in someone's mouth without warning. Even if the guy's high or something. Comments?

Comments

[jawnbc]

Well thanks for that. but delete if that works for you...or I can at your behest.

[art-thirst.livejournal.com]

Now that you've read it, I can delete it. Thanks...

[ranger1.livejournal.com]

This is out of my depth, but it seems to go beyond `slut etiquette' into the realm of common sense. If the recipient doesn't know it's coming (no pun intended) it's more likely to hit his wind pipe or do something to incite a gag reflex. Which is not pleasant. But yeah, that kind of behavior is galling.

[jawnbc]

My thoughts exactly...best I travel in waters more familiar. Thanks

La joie et les lois de jouir

[stingray1975.livejournal.com]

It seems we have similar notions of risk & use similar strategies when at play. As far as I know, it's an unwritten rule to let someone know that you're about to cum. Accidents do happen, though. Maybe you turned him on so much that he didn't know he was about to cum?!

Re: La joie et les lois de jouir

[jawnbc]

Pis si je sois si beau, pourquoi pas sur mon visage...ça marche mieux, non? ;)

[bearchow.livejournal.com]

When I was in Europe, everyone used rubber even for oral sex ... granted that was years ago ... not so extreme in the US, but I do hate cum in my mouth without warning, it is more a trust and intimate thing for me, I take it only when I trust someone ... not that I don't play safe, but the reality is if you are sucking someone without barrier, the risk of getting STD is more or less the same! Hell, we can get a nasty case of Staph in SF sharing a weigh bench nowadays!!

[jawnbc]

Hell, we can get a nasty case of Staph in SF sharing a weigh bench nowadays!!

Yet another reason why I don't work out...much safer eating Pringles and watching telly...