Things I have learned from LiveJournal
Jul. 20th, 2006 11:57 am![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
jawnbc1. Some people who are compelling, engaging and charming in text can't hold a conversation face-to-face.
2. You can be totally supportive and validating to some people 95% of the time. But in the 5% where you step up (as a friend) and challenge something they say or do, you've betrayed them (take a number, 'cause everyone betrays them and their ilk).
3. The best expectations are amusement and distraction; others will, at some time, be met with disappointment.
4. There are two types of role models: I want what you have and thank Gawd I'm not you. We all get to play both parts.
5. One person's sharing da joy is (many) others' gloating.
6. Some people who can't hold a conversation in text are compelling, engaging and charming face-to-face.
7. Be wary of "experts" who've been working on their PhDs for 9+ years.
8. While it's great that many on here put not work safe shite behind cuts, it's your fault for reading LJ @ work if someone's non-LJ cut entry loads a photo of a huge, engorged cock onto your monitor.
9. Cantankerous and crabby are not necessarily critical; beware those who never (or very rarely) ever have anything positive to say about life, the universe and everything
10. Break-ups, diets, bad hair, depression, "it's who I am" or impulse are lame excuses for being obnoxious, rude or insensitive. Gracious apologies, however, remedy such mis-steps easily
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jawnbc's air travel etiquette manifesto Travellers of the world unite!
2. You can be totally supportive and validating to some people 95% of the time. But in the 5% where you step up (as a friend) and challenge something they say or do, you've betrayed them (take a number, 'cause everyone betrays them and their ilk).
3. The best expectations are amusement and distraction; others will, at some time, be met with disappointment.
4. There are two types of role models: I want what you have and thank Gawd I'm not you. We all get to play both parts.
5. One person's sharing da joy is (many) others' gloating.
6. Some people who can't hold a conversation in text are compelling, engaging and charming face-to-face.
7. Be wary of "experts" who've been working on their PhDs for 9+ years.
8. While it's great that many on here put not work safe shite behind cuts, it's your fault for reading LJ @ work if someone's non-LJ cut entry loads a photo of a huge, engorged cock onto your monitor.
9. Cantankerous and crabby are not necessarily critical; beware those who never (or very rarely) ever have anything positive to say about life, the universe and everything
10. Break-ups, diets, bad hair, depression, "it's who I am" or impulse are lame excuses for being obnoxious, rude or insensitive. Gracious apologies, however, remedy such mis-steps easily
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jawnbc's air travel etiquette manifesto Travellers of the world unite!
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Date: 2006-07-20 07:01 pm (UTC)Yes! Thank you. I got reamed because one of my icons has "bullshit" in it, and the person was at work. Um, not my fault.
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Date: 2006-07-20 07:49 pm (UTC)Fuck 'em!!!!!
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Date: 2006-07-20 07:17 pm (UTC)I agree with you there. But I wonder how exhausting it is to keep up a fake persona. I mean, how hard it must be to be someone you're not.
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Date: 2006-07-20 07:21 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2006-07-20 07:30 pm (UTC)I try to be as authentically me in both RL and LJ. I reckon that if I am always being honest and true to myself, I'll never have to remember what I told someone, and the different versions of "reality" don't bump into each other.
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Date: 2006-07-20 07:52 pm (UTC)But I also think some folks purposely play with their sense of self online. Impishly.
And a lot of folks just aren't inclined to be reflective of themselves, and just shoot from the hip/lip.
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Date: 2006-07-20 08:16 pm (UTC)Though I have to admit, I'm learning more about myself in this forum than I anticipated, since I have to be self reflective in order to give an honest answer. So where I was a year ago and where I am today are very different places. And I've had some interesting self revelations (most of which I've not posted).
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Date: 2006-07-20 07:53 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2006-07-20 07:54 pm (UTC)*evil laugh*
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Date: 2006-07-20 07:57 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2006-07-20 08:17 pm (UTC)Exclusively while wearing drag, though!
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Date: 2006-07-21 07:58 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2006-07-20 07:09 pm (UTC)(this is a recent one that I am noticing)
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Date: 2006-07-20 07:54 pm (UTC)Is that a manatee in your icon, or are you just happy to see me?
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Date: 2006-07-20 07:57 pm (UTC)One person was talking about her dislike of a particular culture and then was called on it -because in essence it is more of a dislike of a particular person who is of that culture.
I didn't outright say to her, "bitch please" but instead I played up how much I like the people of that culture and have felt many people to be a kindred spirit because of similar mindsets.
Really what it breaks down to is my dislike of veiled fascism and ass-hattery.
I am resisting the urge to lay an all around smack-down to specific people on my friends list about these things.
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Date: 2006-07-20 08:02 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2006-07-20 08:05 pm (UTC)I just need to get it out there and say, "what the hell"
I also want to say to a few people, "you want to know why things are totally fucked up for you? This is why. Maybe if you stopped buying shit when you have no money you wouldn't be over-drawn at the damn bank. or Maybe if you would own up to the fact that you are married to a damn alcoholic who has no genuine interest in getting help for himself and that person doesn't want to be your friend anymore because you made it perfectly clear through your fucking actions that you didn't give a damn about them. And those shoes are insanely ugly. Please."
I am just feeling a little stabby today.
That and I really really really want to smack my Mother. "you want to know why you feel this way and things are going like this? Because of your actions. Lady you taught me that."
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Date: 2006-07-20 07:24 pm (UTC)This probably comes from not really understanding my own identity.
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Date: 2006-07-20 07:29 pm (UTC)(Which means of course that for just a second I thought the same thing.)
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Date: 2006-07-20 07:55 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2006-07-20 07:55 pm (UTC)However, I refuse to offer you any comfort or assurance that none of these apply to you....
[heh heh]
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Date: 2006-07-20 07:47 pm (UTC)Yeah, that would be me :(
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Date: 2006-07-20 07:58 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2006-07-20 09:22 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2006-07-20 09:33 pm (UTC)It also doesn't help that I'm not one for small talk. When some stranger asks me how I'm doing, I want to smack them :)
The biggest thing is that writing gives you time to plan your response and the internet can give you a shield. Real life requires quicker response times and you have to be much more careful with your feelings, emotions, etc...
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Date: 2006-07-20 10:13 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2006-07-20 10:18 pm (UTC)mmm...I could use a good cider right now. Too bad it's against office rules >:(
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Date: 2006-07-20 09:02 pm (UTC)WHY DOESN'T ANYONE TELL ME THESE THINGS??? Next you'll be telling me there's porn on the 'net...
7. Be wary of "experts" who've been working on their PhDs for 9+ years.
Or who always seem to be the ones laid off.
8. While it's great that many on here put not work safe shite behind cuts, it's your fault for reading LJ @ work if someone's non-LJ cut entry loads a photo of a huge, engorged cock onto your monitor.
*snicker* I work at http://www.manhunt.net (click at your own risk...legal, but you probably don't want your boss to see it) and I'm supposed to see that stuff!!!
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Date: 2006-07-20 08:48 pm (UTC)But how we present ourselves online is an interesting topic. Writing is an easy way to communicate for those who are shy IRL. I think I am pretty much the same person online or IRL, but I do use my LJ as a place to dump my negative feelings, and I think I'm a lot happier in day to day life than my entries here might suggest.
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Date: 2006-07-20 10:53 pm (UTC)As for the negative stuff, well I try to be mindful and err on the side of not complaining. Because I could, like, all day...
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Date: 2006-07-21 02:53 am (UTC)no subject
Date: 2006-07-20 10:54 pm (UTC)I took 3 years; guess I"m twice the expert you is. ;p
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Date: 2006-07-20 10:07 pm (UTC)I love this. Can I link it?
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Date: 2006-07-20 10:55 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2006-07-21 01:35 am (UTC)no subject
Date: 2006-07-21 04:24 am (UTC)Well said
Date: 2006-07-21 04:31 am (UTC)no subject
Date: 2006-07-21 05:25 am (UTC)