It occurs to me...

[jawnbc]

...that nearly all my LJ buddies are gay men. In and of itself, not a problem.

But I'd sure like some more women/girl pals!

Are my journal postingss of marginal interest to non-gayboys? Is there some sort of cultural disconnect?

*Gulp*

Comments

str8s and female readers.

[darkphuque.livejournal.com]

There was a thread a while back on the BML about this very issue. I said that I didn't feel I was in some way missing something, and soundly trounced.
Now I do "know" women, some str8, some gay, but I've never thought of them in the same way as friends. Admittedly, my definition of "friend is very tight, and I don't move in circles where I would be in social situations with women. I also know that there could be some misogyny...due to the abuse at the hands good ol’ mum. I have one LJ Friend who is female...and that's interesting. I wonder.....

Its kinda the same thing with str8s. I have little to no interest in children. To me, having children and having puppies are much the same thing...with one huge difference...when you're done playing with puppies, you can but them back in their cage. If you do that with children, you get arrested. I had some str8 friends when I lived in Chicago. Eventually, they married and began families, and eventually we drifted apart....lack of commonalities, and their need to talk about their children, eclipsed any discussion of a new Chawan, or the recent Chaji....so all I have a few friends, all gay and all male. I have a number of people that I know, and with whom I do things...they are all Gay and male. Am I being shallow? Stubborn? Unrealistic?

That insular gay male community thing

[sinnabor.livejournal.com]

Seems to me that to maintain a friendship, you need some commonality. I guess you could actively work at it, but I can't say I've ever made an effort for someone who wasn't already a friend. (And, now that I think about it, most of my friends were dating material at one time or another. Another particularly gay thing.)

When straight folks get married and have kids, their lives are suddenly taken over by the needs of the kids. That is perhaps as it should be, but it makes them difficult to hang around with.

When a good deal of your leisure time is hanging around with friends at, say, The Lone Star (aka "The Loin Stare") or going to "play" parties... it seems to naturally follow that most of your friends will be gay men.

I'm not particularly concerned with that being good or bad. It just is.

Among the friends I see on a regular basis, I know one straight man and one straight woman, both single, both a little overweight, and both bitching about how hard it is to find anyone to date. They seem like a perfect match to me, but they have both nixed that idea. :-)

Of course, if you waste as much time on LJ as I am starting to, then the set of folks who could be your friends would be much larger. Which I suppose was the original point, and now I've painted myself into a corner.

Re: That insular gay male community thing

[art-thirst.livejournal.com]

Very nice new portraits. :-) Yes, I read your entry too.

Re: That insular gay male community thing

[jawnbc]

I appreciate your comments. And largely concur...ta!

Re: str8s and female readers.

[jawnbc]

interesting...