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[jawnbc]

Just so I'm on the same page, lemme get this straight:

If I say I'm hurt and have been hard done by on LJ and threaten to take my marbles away and play somewhere else, I'll get dozens of messages begging me to stay?

Does no one consider the possibiility that a person's own harsh, callous or ignorant postings (or responses to others' postings) inspire vitriol?

What's next--picking teams for dodge ball?

Comments

Unnecessary

[darkphuque.livejournal.com]

Jawn...
Just ask and I will have Gawd smite your enemies....or
We'll put out a contract on such people...you Jwawn are an LJ Icon...
*giggle

I have never seen such an abundance of Drahmah Queens...
Several good writers have taken their memo pads and left...why?
Jeez....I have seen more maturity in 4th graders...Just my opinion, however.....

Re: Unnecessary

[jawnbc]

I have blocked/banned one member from commenting on my journal. One. Then I unblocked them for a while...and re-blocked them. Seriously fooked personality.

And thanks for the offer of using Gawd as a weapon :)

Bad bishop!

[danthered.livejournal.com]

one...TwoThreeNOTIT!!!


8^{)}

[bentwright.livejournal.com]

Oh...¿Was that YOU? I love you too.

[jawnbc]

I don't think it was me...

Huh?

[roybear.livejournal.com]

Have I missed something?

Ditto....what happened?

[kosseferal.livejournal.com]

I'm pretty oblivious to the LJ drama stuff....there was something that happened in another community that made for a flurry of remarks....I guess I'm just not dialed in, as my beloved would put it. ::shrug::

Re: Ditto....what happened?

[jawnbc]

I don't wanna buy into the drama, so no point in pointing it out. Ironically I was gonna post about this before this wee event happened.

[umlilo.livejournal.com]

Maybe I have too few friends on LJ to pick up on these things. Whatever happened... pleeeze stay!

[jawnbc]

I'm not going anywheres baby!

[cabearcub.livejournal.com]

sadly, the answer to your question is very simple. OF COURSE people know...they either don't care about the collateral damage, or they posted what they did for the intent purpose to CAUSE hurt. And most hide behind the catch-phrase, "It's MY journal. I'll say whatever I want to."

If someone says something that hurts/offends you, you should feel free to let them know. If they don't seem to care about your feelings, perhaps you shouldn't read their journal/remarks anymore.

Live Journal can be used in many different ways, and as you have probably noticed, it's used as a weapon from time to time.

Sorry someone upset you.

[jawnbc]

thanks. But they didn't upset so much as pushed my "unfair" button--I get right pissed off when someone's treating others unfairly.

[cachondo.livejournal.com]

Some people can be blissfully (pathologically) unaware of their own presence and remarks, and perhaps even un/interested in un/intentional developments. Just observe, remember, extend, and amend.

I 'spose this is one reason I keep a very tentative and measured hold in electronic environments. Wait! I do that in meatspace too! Oh bother.

[jawnbc]

mmmm......meatspace

[ranger1.livejournal.com]

I had a similar reaction. Well put.

[jawnbc]

ta

[clintswan.livejournal.com]

good grief!

¿what might have brought this on?

[jawnbc]

inverted question marks--they're a trigger for me

~¿o

[clintswan.livejournal.com]

¿a trigger of....

• seizures?
• anger?
• amore?
• lust?
• disgust?
• a reply post?
• ¿¿¿???

Re: ~¿o

[jawnbc]

uifz nblf nf ipsoz. boe eztmfyjd.

[guywithmonsters.livejournal.com]

Oh, not Dodge Ball. I always got picked last....

[jawnbc]

yeah, it's like "bullying 101" in a lot of respects. But I enjoyed jumping and diving and rolling around like a monkey.

[quirkstreet.livejournal.com]

Oh dear. What did I miss? I have a strange feeling I know who the other participant is ...

... and if so, you know I've been most annoyed by at least one thing he wrote (and in MY journal). Harsh, callous, yeah. Anger-producing, sure. If this IS who I think it is, you can see my supportive reply to him, regardless of that provocation. Although I didn't counsel leaving LJ :)

Question is, hon, what can I say to support YOU? It sounds like something pretty bruising has happened. I'm really sorry. Wanna hug??

[jawnbc]

I'll take the hug. But I'm fine. Really.

Really I was gonna post about this before recent events. No bruising

[jawnbc]

and hey--I emailed you last night--didja get it?

[shawnsyms.livejournal.com]

[note: this reply corrects a missing word in the last reply I sent!]

I have to confess that I never know how to react when I read this kind of post, because it is clearly talking about something specific without identifying specifically what it is talking about.

So I can't really engage your post because I don't have any context. My loss, I suppose — I just end up feeling really weird every time someone makes a post like this.

[jawnbc]

Well it is and it isn't. I was thinking about this sort of thing recently, and then came across a specific drama. The particulars of that exchange aren't really what I was talking about. I just find that some folks toss their opinions around either cruelly or thoughtlessly, then get kinda weepy and whingy when someone calls them on it. Or gives it back in kind.

We're all human, and most of us are adults. It's the lack of reflexivity--and the willingness of so many to queue up and bolster people who dish it out but can't take it--that I was commenting on.

And for the record, the specifics here weren't directed at me. Unless I missed something.

[shawnsyms.livejournal.com]

Thanks for the additional comments. I appreciate it.

: )

[shawnsyms.livejournal.com]

I actually have some feelings on related topics that I've been meaning to post. Your own comments will likely spur me to action on that. So thank you.

[jawnbc]

t'es bienvenu....can't wait to read 'em.